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Do you ever feel resistance in your life and work? Using resistance as a tool to reach your dreams is a great way to change our perception of what we often see as a negative thing. Resistance is the one that kills our drive and encourages us to watch movies and have an extra glass of wine instead of progressing forward with our dreams (oh how I love resistance sometimes, somehow a glass of wine seems a lot more fun than organizing finances – but it’s clear which one will get me closer to my ideal life, isn’t it? ;)).
As Steven Pressfield said “resistance wants to keep us shallow and unfocused” and I couldn’t agree more.
However the flip side to it is that resistance is also an indicator. The moment we decide to become extraordinary is when resistance will start to show up most since resistance wants you to be ordinary. More resistance is a good sign that you are on the right track.
Note: There are 2 types of resistance.
Bad resistance // you feel in your gut that something is wrong and a voice tries to get you out of that space. Listen.
Good resistance // you are working hard to better yourself or do something that will help you in the future and your mind starts to wander or you get bored or you feel angry. This is when you take steps to move through these reactions (check out the graphic above).
When you beat your resistance, you gain clarity and confidence because you fought for yourself and your passion. This combo is priceless when chasing your dreams.
Tell me,
What does your resistance tend to look like?
Is it chocolate, TV, cleaning around the house, social media, feeling tired, wine?
What happens when you stare it in the face and call its bluff?
Get brave and see through the charade.
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Ok, so corporate companies aren’t exactly the most glamorous place to practice living your best life but with a bit of creativity and determination, we can make our working experience align with our goals and ambitions.
With my full-time job, I live away from home for a good part of the month and so setting goals for my work day and being prepared are essential for creating an environment in a sterile office that makes me (mostly) content and feeling inspired. Not all of us have 24 hours a day to devote to creating our dreams (if you do, that’s amazing!) so we need to learn to adapt and work with what we do have. It can be hard and taxing at times but it is well worth it.
Something I dealt a lot with when I first started practising some work rituals was a feeling of not wanting to do them at all until circumstances were perfect (aka until I was working my perfect job or magically did not need a job anymore – ha!). Waiting until things are “perfect” before making a change is a big mistake and definitely needs its own post but for now, keep in mind that we need to create our perfect lives now no matter what the conditions in order to manifest our dreams. Live the best life that you can, now. So creating an amazing, inspiring workplace is a great place to start. It doesn’t matter if you love or hate your job – make it yours.
The idea behind creating rituals at work is to exercise living our best lives now with what we have in order to help us manifest our dreams.
On days when I include some of my rituals into the working hours, I feel much more satisfied and centered and happy with my life. The more abundance (or gratitude) we feel, the more that is attracted into our lives from our thoughts of having rather than lacking.
So below I have written a selection of my favourite rituals that I have used over my career in many different offices. I really recommend that you take the time to figure out what works best for you and start doing it today.
// Meditate
Taking a moment each day to meditate and calm your mind is a lifesaver at work! I tend to do this over lunch and love to simply have silence or I will do a guided meditation that I keep on my iPod if the office is a bit noisy or I need some extra help that day. Put yourself first and see how your productivity really improves. It also gives me time to practice visualization of my goals and dreams. Can’t get privacy? Excuse yourself to the bathroom for a few minutes. Worth it!
// Appreciate the Beauty
Take the time where possible to appreciate and have gratitude for the beauty in everything around you at work (and the people). I like to watch the sunsets in the morning. Where I work (in the middle of no where in Northern Australia) the sunsets can be spectacular and even if I am not excited about the day, watching them makes me glad and grateful to be right where I am. Then I try to remember that feeling all day long. Right now as I am quickly editing this post, it is raining outside my window at work and taking a few minutes to pause and enjoy the sounds of nature really makes me happy. We are surrounded by awesome! Another trick that I got from Louise Hay is to have gratitude for everything around you from doors to people to the bugs on the ground. And I find it works!
// Little Luxuries
This is a form of loving yourself that works wonders for me. I keep a small selection of little luxuries around me at my office that liven the place up, are in-line with my dream lifestyle and make me smile. Things like a gorgeous, organic hand lotion (that I use daily – don’t be afriad to use these or it defeats the purpose. You are worth it!), an essential oil misting spray for my face, high-quality teas (lots of variety) and bush flower essences are my currents.
// Listen to Uplifting Music
We are hard-wired to respond emotionally to music. It has a bigger effect on us than we sometimes think. Playing the right tunes at the right time can really change the moment. I pimped my iPod (check it out here) to have many different playlists that I can use no matter what the occasion. At work I love to listen to anything Buddha Bar for a chilled out, not distracting playlist or simply some classical music. Every once in a while I will turn on some gangsta beats to get me pumped up (ooh yea) – works every time! What are your favourite songs to work to?
// Post-It Note Quotes
One of my favourites and the easiest things to do is to put up post-it notes around your office with inspiring quotes or words of your choice. I also like to put up my affirmation of the day/week for a friendly reminder or perhaps my goals if I am feeling a bit lost. Another extension of this is to have a comforting book nearby. I tend to keep a book in my desk that has a bunch of things highlighted for moments when I need an extra boost. This also works for moments when I am feeling a bit homesick.
// Decorate Your Desk with a Vision Board
Keep your goals close by. Little motivates more than photos of your dream come to life. Consider posting some pictures that sum up your goals near your desk or digitally save them on your desktop if that isn’t an option. Alternatively, have one, nice, framed photo of you and your partner or you and your dream house, on your dream trip – whatever you like (if you don’t have a desk, laminate a picture and keep it in your pocket).
// Exercises in the Bathroom
Ok, so this might sound super weird but give it a chance. I have some easy exercises that don’t require my hands to be on the ground (ew!) that I can do almost anywhere. I tend to choose my desk these days but my previous job was a shared office, so I would do them in the bathroom. Taking a 5 minute break to pump it actually makes me feel really invigorated, empowered and strong. Taking little actions such as these re-affirms to us (and the universe) that we are in-line with and dedicated to our goals and dreams (mega-important). I love it! You will be hooked, so try doing some sumo squats, lunges or whatever on your next bathroom break.
// Stretch Hourly
Similar to above, I stretch hourly (where possible) while at work. It really serves to calm me and bring me back to reality. Give this a try!
// Eat High-Quality, Healthy Treats
Sometimes easier said than done (I certainly can attest to that) but necessary. Surround yourself with healthy snacks and don’t deprive.
// Tea-Time Ritual
Try this out! A daily essential in my book. I even have a kettle at my desk now because I used to use the walk to get boiling water as an excuse to not enjoy tea. Resistance BUSTED! ;)
The common message with all of these tips is to:
Create abundance around you and make yourself feel special and loved no matter where you are.
These are just examples from my life, so change them or create your own! What are you being called to do to keep yourself sane and spiritual in the workplace? What do you think will help you get excited about your goals no matter where you are? Share some of your ideas with me or your own tips from your experiences. I would love to hear from you (as always!)
I’m back! Wow, what a great trip I had. This lucky girl went to Singapore for a few days to enjoy the sights, food and shopping thanks to her oh-so sweet man (early birthday present). I’ll be posting some pics from the trip on facebook throughout the week, so be sure to check it out. Even though it’s only been a few days, it feels like it has been years since I put up an article. Oh, boy – let’s get right into it.
A lesson that I choose to learn the hard way (the way I choose to learn most lessons, sadly) is that it is vital to invest in myself and bring together a dream team around me in order to have success at the things I most want. In my stubborn Taurus head, I can do everything alone and asking other people for help is a sign of weakness. It means that I am admitting that I am not able to make things happen or I alone am not enough to create my dreams. So not true.
As I learn more about successful people and businesses, it is being made abundantly clear to me that the people who made it and rocked it are the ones who invested in themselves, treated their passion like a job from the start and had a lot of amazing and strategic help along the way. They are clever enough to know that they have great talents but those talents are best used when they are supported by other peoples’ great talents as well. Other people can fill in the gaps in their story and allow their gifts to not be over-extended or spread too thin.
What do you do best? Focus on that. The rest is better being delegated (where possible).
This leads me to my part of the story. Lately I have been thinking about hiring a coach. I have some blocks going on that I know I need help to successfully bust through and I realize that these blocks are standing between me and my best life. They gotta go! There is a lot of resistance coming from me about this decision, though. My ego is feeding me lines like: ‘you don’t need someone else to solve your problems’; ‘you can’t afford that’; ‘you are selfish for wanting to spend money that way’; ‘you will never see that money again’; and ‘you will regret this’. But why not learn how to get through it from someone who has been there, made it to the other side and who has helped many other women just like me? Is it really in my best interest to not go for it?
1// Understand what it is that you really need: Be sure that you are not looking for a quick fix and are actually seeking the right kind of help. Are you looking to purchase your millionth eBook or online course and still haven’t solved your issue? Maybe it’s time to consider hiring the coach to give you the attention and accountability you need to actually change your patterns. Yes, it is a bigger risk (more $$) but the payoff should be magnitudes more.
2// Declare what you need: If you know that you are ready but aren’t sure who to hire or what product to buy, don’t stress. Just declare your intentions on paper or by saying them out loud. You will be heard and you will be led to the right resource. Just be an active participant – get online and do some digging – who coaches your online heros? Send emails, ask questions and watch those doors open.
3// Listen to your resistance: Is your resistance coming from a place of fear about the risk itself of coming from a place that is trying to tell you that this coach or service perhaps isn’t for you? I know that my resistance is all about my money issues and has nothing to do with the coach being right for me, which means that there is a good chance that this is a smart move.
4// Make space and take risks: Yes these services cost money and often it is a lot more than we are used to spending. Letting go of things in our lives makes room for more abundance to flow in. If you feel in your gut that this is the right way to spend your resources, then take the dive and see what amazing results come to fill your life from that place of bravery and faith in yourself.
So, get started and begin to create your dream team today! I have invested in a bunch of different levels of services from eBooks to full-on coaching packages and am feeling such energy from learning to invest wisely in myself while building a dream team of women who influence my path to success. Don’t be afraid to declare that you need a bit of help. It feels so freeing! (And yes, I just decided to pay my deposit for an intense coaching sesh to bust through my blocks – can’t wait!)
Let’s chat! What are your best talents? Where do you recognize that you could use some help? Now, what type of resource is best for you (eBook, coaching, online course)? And finally, what is stopping you from taking the plunge and making it happen? Tell me about it in the comments below.
Photos:here, here and an Illustration by Pierre-Joseph Redoute.
I just had to share these amazing quotes with you:
“Act as if anything you desire is already here…Treat yourself as if you already are what you’d like to become.” ~Wayne Dyer
“When you believe that you have or have accomplished what you seek, the universe must play catch up and create the experience to fill the gap between your energy and the universe.”
~ Gabrielle Bernstein
When I first read these quotes, it was a big YES! moment for me. They put in to words the step that I think is most crucial and has gotten me the most results in my quest to living an incredible life. We just need to start living our dream now.
I also really felt like these wise words (that rocked my world) complimented my blurb “Create your lifestyle such that failure is impossible.” perfectly…I’ll show you what I mean and explain how you can make these words work for you.
Living your dream now creates the energy and space needed to actually accomplish the final goal.
Live your dreams before they exist.
Fake It = Live as if you have already accomplished your biggest dream. Create your lifestyle based on what your goals are.
Become It = Trust in yourself and work for it. The universe will fill the space of energy that you manifested with the dream that you most want.
1// Create Your Dream Team
Once you have a clear vision of what your dream life is, get online and find people who are living a similar dream. There are millions and millions of people out there who are making magic everyday. These are your mentors (even if you will never meet.) Find a place for them on your vision board and write below their picture what it is about them that you are so drawn to. It can be a feeling, it can be something that they accomplished or anything else. Just identify what it is of theirs that you want for your own life.
2// Become a Sponge
Your dream team have already accomplished something similar to what you want. Don’t waste time re-inventing the wheel. Research everything you can about how they got to where they are. What habits do they have for success? What lifestyle do they live that allows them to have space and an open-heart to accomplish so much? Ask questions, send emails, make phone calls. Live beyond your barriers and put yourself out there. You need to be a sponge for all information that you can possibly find. This step will undoubtedly open the first door for you (taking action always does).
3// Create Your Dream Lifestyle
Now that you know how your dream team got from A to B, you need to look at your life and implement as many of their habits as you can in it – big or small. This step is where you really start to fake it until you become it. Live life as if your dreams have already come true. Take it seriously (if you really want it, this will be easy) and make it your # 1 priority. Work around other commitments such as work and kids etc. Commit yourself to your dream.
These steps are about positioning yourself such that failure is impossible. Declare what you want and go get it. Once you have implemented some new habits and are seeing your dreams unfolding, start to adapt it to your own life situation and make it your own. This is meant as a jumping off point. A way to inspire action that then opens doors for you.
Who are some awesome mentors in your life? What 3 things can you implement in your life that they do in theirs to get success? Share it with me below! I love to hear from you :)
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